“Not by lamentations and mournful chants out we to celebrate the funeral of a good man, but by hymns, for in ceasing numbered with mortals he enters upon heritage of a diviner life.”
In essence, funeral ceremonies are about respecting the deceased but there can be some differences in how they are hosted. Life memorial services include family, friends and colleagues coming together to pay their tributes. However, some families choose a celebration of life ceremony. The sentiments are the same, but such funeral receptions are about celebrating the virtues that define a person. It is about sharing passions and mannerisms of a loved one who is no longer there. We believe such moments should be more about taking care of the smaller details rather than extravagance. For instance, serving tea to guests using tableware that the decease seemed to love is a warm and caring gesture. Many people seek the help of funeral event planners for post-funeral receptions while some families manage it on their own. Either ways, there are some aspects of funeral ceremony table arrangements that just cannot be ignored…
Sharing Memoirs at the Wake
Proper Etiquette is also about a Well-managed Table
There are some unspoken rules for attending post-funeral receptions. People are expected to be dressed in a certain way but seldom will a family or the funeral planner issue a dress code. Formal, semi-formals and not-too-loud shades are generally preferred. Similar consideration is relevant for the life memorial service table too. It is expected to have an ample stock of tissues or napkins. Not handy just for cleaning-up after the customary cup of tea or coffee, such table accessories also help when someone is overwhelmed with emotions. Ordering sufficient napkins, in sober colors, is perhaps inherent to any list of funeral supplies, particularly when funeral service providers order in bulk.
Luncheons at the Re-pass
Funeral reception table linen can be about respecting the deceased…
The idea of organizing a re-pass is also about doing small things that the deceased identified with and the post-funeral lunch is a big consideration. Whether the funeral reception is located at a relative’s home, church’s banquet hall, or parlor of a funeral home, it is worth paying attention to the menu. It is a good idea to keep the options limited but including things that the loved one really liked—a home-made lasagna or a casserole can be a great addition to the ceremonial table that is lined with refreshments. It is worth reminding that this too can be personalized with an elegant table linen in a color that the deceased loved!
Personalized Touch Makes a Big Difference
Put some thought into celebrating a lifetime…
Since it is all about remembering a loved one, you can create a photo wall or memory table that displays some of his/her personal collection. A memory table works as a story teller on such occasions with photographs, letters, and visual items from the loved one’s personal collection playing their parts. The life memorial service does not need to be an extravaganza affair even if some celebrations are a part of the schedule. This could be anything from casual pot lucks at a family home to sit-down meals at a restaurant or banquet hall where the family last converged for a Holiday Season dinner.
Such funeral services give a chance to the next-of-kin to grieve in a slightly different way, through sharing conversations that seem like short stories borrowed from heartfelt memories. It is not necessary to buy everything new when it comes to dishware, funeral reception table linens, or centerpieces. These are easy to rent from a funeral supplies provider. Spend a few minutes on warm color linens that don’t overpower the memories on display. Similarly, floral bunches might help to soothe the mood.